Adoption IS Love: Open Family

The Legacy of an Adopted Child

Once there where two womenWho never knew each other
One you do not remember,The other you call Mother
Two different lives shaped to make yours one;
One became your guilding star,
The other became your sun.
The first gave you Life,
The second taught you to live in it
The first gave you a need for love,
The second was there to give it
One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name
One gave youthe seed of talent,
The other gave you aim.
One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.
One gave you up,It was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child.And god led her straight to you
And now you ask me through your tears,
The age old question through the years;
Heredity or environment....which are you the product of?
Neither,my darling, neither;
Just two different kinds of love.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Open Family

Cole's grandparents and brother, Dean, come to see us every summer. So far it's been great for them to have that connection and relationship. I know that one day the questions will come and I'll be honest with him. But I also know I won't tell him the negative things that may change who he sees himself to be. But knowing he has a brother is so special to him, and I pray that it will benefit both of the boys throughout their lives. Having an open adoption with Cole has been great so far. And I feel that it's good for all of us. They love both of my children as their own grandchildren, not just Cole. And we love them dearly. It may not be for everyone, and nobody thinks that it may always be smooth sailing, but for now it's good and happy and comforts all of us to know we are their supporting eachother, loving eachother. John and Wanda didn't give up a grandson, they just gained an extended family along with him.